The Reflex – 10/6/23

Photo of Huntington Lighthouse and Channel Marker by Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

Photograph by Firefly Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

The Reflex – “Let’s get on it.” So, it seems my reflexive impulses are buoyant, my survival instincts strong. I hope this will be a contributive factor to my outcome. In my pre-cancer days, I’d say I considered myself to be a positive person. I’ve always felt blessed, for my family, my friends, my successes and even my failures… Life is good.
 
In all my 67 years, I’m not sure I’ve been faced with quite the challenge that this diagnosis presents. Life as you perceive it shifts in that moment. Questions, thoughts, realizations all buzz around at a dizzying pace. Yet, somehow, hovering above all of that is a mantra that urges me to “get on it”, do what needs to be done and take care of it (as much as that is within my power). I still feel blessed, (perhaps even more so), life is still good. Don’t get me wrong, there are days, oh there are days… but they will not rule me. 
 
So I navigate toward treatment.
 
In your day today, offer a thought or a prayer for all those on this journey.

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The Moment – 10/5/23

Photograph by orb on beach by Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

Photograph by Firefly Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

The Moment – So there it is. That moment. There is not much that you can physically do in that moment when you learn your diagnosis. A moment when your world is turned upside down. You really don’t know how you will react until that moment of truth arrives.

Quick story…A friend of mine is having dinner at Chinese restaurant with his 90-year-old grandma, she opened her fortune cookie and read it. “Hope for the best, expect the worst.” I’m not sure that nonagenarian left the restaurant with any plans to return.

Some googling led me to this, more relatable variation of that idea, from Maya Angelou: “Hoping for the best, prepared for the worst and unsurprised by anything in between.” And I suppose that was my frame of mind, heading into the procedure that would identify the cause of my discomfort. It turns out that the human spirit is a complex intangible component of our makeup, one of enormous power and influence over those of our more physical parts. I found this out when, in that moment, through the anesthesia-induced post-op haze, as the Doc informed me of my malignancy I told him, “Let’s get on it.”

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I’m taking a photo a day to help the American Cancer Society fight for a world without cancer. Like so many, I have known family and friends who’ve battled the disease, including some who continue to fight. This year, I find myself personally impacted, and it occurs to me that this platform offers a way to channel my passion for photography to help relay a personal journey that may resonate with others. Please consider making a donation because every little bit helps. Thank you for your support!

Something’s Not Right – 10/4/23

Photo by Steve Caputo, Light of Day Galleries

Photograph by Firefly Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

Something’s Not Right – In the course of my daily activity, something seemed off. Nothing big, really… not pain, more like discomfort… but enough for me to say something. I don’t know if it was an early warning or not. I don’t know that I know my body better than anyone else might know their own, I really don’t think so. I don’t even know if I ignored earlier signs, if there were any. I just know that at that particular moment in time (late June), I felt the need to say something, and that was the ripple in the pond.

 

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I’m taking a photo a day to help the American Cancer Society fight for a world without cancer. Like so many, I have known family and friends who’ve battled the disease, including some who continue to fight. This year, I find myself personally impacted, and it occurs to me that this platform offers a way to channel my passion for photography to help relay a personal journey that may resonate with others. Please consider making a donation because every little bit helps. Thank you for your support!

An Unexpected Diagnosis – 10/3/23

Photograph by Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

Photograph by Firefly Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

This past July, I received an unexpected medical diagnosis which indicated that I have cancer. (So there it is, the sentence I could never have imagined writing.) And as shocking as that is, I am far from alone, even by the measure of how many other people received that same news on that same day… (almost 2 million new cases are diagnosed in the US each year, averaging more than 5,000 per day.) I can’t help thinking that as we post each day throughout October, there will be another 5,000 members joining this exclusive club we’d all prefer not to be a part of.
 
As time passes, I am trying hard not to let this new reality punctuate my life, or even my day. That is a hurdle that not always easy to clear. I remind myself to look up and give thanks for this beautiful day, to live it to the fullest. More than any other, THIS is the day we can make a difference. Spare a thought or a prayer for all those on this journey.
 

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Joy – 10/10/23

Photo of Steve Caputo with family provided by Steve Caputo

Photograph by Firefly Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

Celebrate JOY at every turn. Last evening, at dinner in the city with my newly engaged son and soon to be daughter-in-law! It lifts my heart to imagine the love and life that awaits them.

It is no coincidence and no surprise that all of these beautiful souls are at the core of my support.

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I’m taking a photo a day to help the American Cancer Society fight for a world without cancer. Like so many, I have known family and friends who’ve battled the disease, including some who continue to fight. This year, I find myself personally impacted, and it occurs to me that this platform offers a way to channel my passion for photography to help relay a personal journey that may resonate with others. Please consider making a donation because every little bit helps. Thank you for your support!

This is a Journey of Hope – 10/2/23

Photo of Lighthouse by FIrefly Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

Photograph by Firefly Steve Caputo, Light of Day Gallery

As challenges go, posting a photo a day hardly seems to qualify. But I understand this is simply a motivator to help participants create a cadence of content that will help keep this vital cause top of mind throughout social media this month. If you choose to follow these posts, please understand that this is a journey of hope, one that I share with the intention that it might resonate with all who may be traveling this road. Even through the tallest reeds, the sun shines through.

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I’m taking a photo a day to help the American Cancer Society fight for a world without cancer. Like so many, I have known family and friends who’ve battled the disease, including some who continue to fight. This year, I find myself personally impacted, and it occurs to me that this platform offers a way to channel my passion for photography to help relay a personal journey that may resonate with others. Please consider making a donation because every little bit helps. Thank you for your support!

Halloween 2022: Let’s Go!!!

Halloween Jack O’ Lanterns by Katheryn Laible

Updated 10/27…My mother always felt a main point of Halloween was to scare bad spirits away before winter gave them too many opportunities to wreak havoc. I love the idea, and really everything about All Hallow’s Eve.

You can learn all sorts of things about the holiday at history.com.

Here’s a history of the Celtic holiday Samhain from Time Magazine, which, due to it’s being an Irish word is, in fact, pronounced SAW-in.

This interesting old article from the BBC explores the connection (or maybe not) between All Hallows Eve, All Saints Day, and Samhain. For an even deeper and broader look at such holidays, check out the World History Encyclopedia.

Of course, many folks simply treasure Halloween for the opportunity to express their creativity and enjoy a great party of sweets, cosplay, and the fun of being playfully terrified.

Are You Ready for Halloween?

Here are “159 of the most creative Halloween Costume Ideas Ever” from Bored Panda. If you have to come up with one yourself really fast, Readers Digest offers 102 Easy Halloween Costumes You Can Make Last Minute

Here’s the Ultimate Guide to Pumpkin Picking on Long Island — I still need to get mine. Can’t wait to carve this weekend!

Here’s 100 easy ideas for that from Parade.com. If you want to take it to the next level, check out “111 World’s Coolest Pumpkin Designs” from homesthetics.net.

Let's Make Some Plans!

For a truly spectacular experience, check out The Rise of the Jack o’ Lanterns which is finally returning to LI this year and is now being hosted at USDAN!

Mommypoppins.com offers up 75 Fun Halloween Activities for Kids.

Here’s a list of haunted houses offered by the Long Island Press

Did you know there’s a Long Island Haunted House Calendar?

Newsday’s got the party scene covered, and articles on all sorts of folks getting into the spirit across the Island. (There is a paywall. Please support local papers).

Don’t forget to check out cool local theaters. The Cinema Arts Centre in Huntington will be showing “The Bat” from 1926, “Scared for Your Life 2022: An Indie Horror Film Festival”, as well as “Boardinghouse –
Cult Café – VHS Night.” What shows are going on near you?

Downtown Happenings

This is also a great time of year to check out Long Island’s amazing downtowns, which are filled with treasures. Check out your local Chamber of Commerce, BID, and other local organizations to see what’s going on near you!

Check out The Huntington Arts Council’s exhibition “A Nightmare on Main Street,” an annual exhibition featuring artwork from students grades 6-12. There were 200 pieces from 145 students submitted. Juror Lauren La Bella chose 41 to show. They are eerily inspiring! Check out the website to learn more, including the 2022 statement that prompted them….

My own Firefly Artists Gallery features hauntingly beautiful works and so much more all year long from amazing local artists such as our abandoned space and other spooky scenes specialists John Lazzaro (did you see his new book?!?), Paul Mele (who’s also got “Confinement” going on at fotofoto in Huntington) and now the amazing Kristen Memoli (welcome!!!).

This Thursday evening, we will offer 10% off our entire gallery as part of Northport’s annual Witches & Warlocks’ Night Out.

That’s October 27th  from 5-8pm.

The event unites local businesses in offering promotions and Halloween spirit. Come in costume! Bring your friends! Pick up a free tote bag, map and directory of evening events from our neighbors at the Signature Properties Northport office, 172 Main Street, who wonderfully organize this event. 

Meanwhile the Northport Historical Society is featuring the “Somnia Tarot” an exhibition of works of Nick Bruno, “a 78 image art series which uses photography, sculpture, costume design,
and dream journal recordings to tell the tale of classic Tarot. “

…They’ve also got “Halloween Magic” with Todd Harris coming Sunday 10/30!

Let’s have some fun!

You can see other great Northport/East Northport events (including Halloween Yoga!) in the Northport Journal. Check out your own local resources (which we are SO lucky to have) to see what’s going on in your neighborhood!

However you choose to celebrate (or not!), we wish you all the best!

Be safe, be smart, and enjoy.

Happy Halloween!!!

Window Shopping Witches

Grateful Thanks, Trudy

“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.” Shakespeare

I have an announcement! Many, actually, but this comes first: After 10 years as Vice President of Laible & Fitzsimmons Inc, Trudy is retiring.  I feel a bit like Dumbo without his feather. Even more, I am grateful for Trudy’s friendship, support and more as we’ve worked together in one capacity and another for over 20 years “to serve and celebrate folks who care for Art, Science and the Common Good on LI and Beyond.”

As Founder Emeritus of the Synchronicity Network Newsletter, Trudy will be the first member of an honorary advisory board that we look forward to inviting others into soon. For now, though, let us focus on Trudy.

She will tell you that since coming into this world in 1952 she “has done every crazy job that was legal and moral.” In the last 20 years I’ve known her to serve as a field manager, a seamstress, an architectural assistant, interior designer, bus driver, snowplow operator, cleaning lady, and a receptionist. She has worked with microchips and in product testing. She often serves as a poll worker during election season. In 2009, she informed me that she “wanted to volunteer somewhere she was really appreciated.” She then proceeded to become a nanny that gave Mary Poppins a run for her money, magic carpet bag and all. It was around then that she also became my business partner.

That story actually begins in 1997, three years before I met her when Charles Agius of Cablevision went through Long Island’s only community leadership program, Leadership Huntington. As he was her employer, Trudy ended up learning a lot as she assisted his participation. The nine-month intensive program was designed to Develop, Connect and Engage diverse community leaders using the Town of Huntington as a living laboratory, fostering stewardship across diverse perspectives. Once graduated, Charlie came back to Trudy – who was already an entrenched volunteer in her church, for local theater and in organizations surrounding her children — and said he would nominate her to go through the young program.

She did it, while at the same time fighting cancer.

Trudy became an ardent volunteer for Leadership. She attended in her own way to every class, save a few when she was caring for her mother and after completing her service in 2014. She was a board member for years. In 2010, when Leadership was suffering the Great Recession, she found herself almost single-handedly coordinating the program. She and Dianne Parker pulled me in. Trudy and I quickly ended up becoming Program and Acting Director together. She got to know many graduates of classes she’d missed and for a long time also volunteered in diverse capacities for the Huntington Township Chamber of Commerce whose Chamber Foundation founded the organization. In 2015 the Chamber bestowed upon Trudy its prestigious “Klaber Award” to honor her deep and enduring service to the Town.

Through Leadership, Trudy became involved in Vision Long Island, a regional force for Smart Growth with a particular focus on down towns and local endeavors, and a champion of education and relationship development across interests. One of her Class of 1999 fellows, Ron Stein, was planting the seeds of this organization that first germinated as Vision Huntington. As a founding Vision Board Member, Trudy tended to every Board and Huntington Smart Growth Steering Committee meeting and did a lot of the organization’s early videography. I myself became involved when they hired me in 2000. Trudy played a meaningful role in early community planning processes and provided thoughtful, practical support to the development of the Smart Growth Awards and Summit. Since Vision’s maturation as a regional force for smart growth planning and policy, Trudy has served Vice President, Treasurer, and now Co-Chair. The role she really plays, tho, and probably always will, is deeper…

Trudy also served as Chair of the Ladies Auxiliary of both the Huntington and Suffolk County VFWs. In addition to much basic support to both bodies, she played a key but quiet role in securing State funding for much needed roof, electrical and other repairs to her local VFW Hall. She then served on the board of the Huntington Township Housing Coalition, as well as the Huntington Housing Authority. She was also an early board member of The Moonjumpers Charitable Foundation, which was founded by Larry Kushnick, Robert Benson and Peter Mazzeo.

In the worst of circumstances, Trudy has been there for her community with soup, a blanket and informed guidance. FEMA certified, she served Suffolk Country Community Emergency Response Team (CERT), acting as both a trainer and a support provider in times of local crisis, as well as assisting in the creation of the organization’s Standard Operating Procedures. While Superstorm Sandy came the same day as her latest grandchild, she still did not hesitate to also lend a hand to that monumental cleanup effort.

Trudy Fitzsimmons is a loving mother, grandmother and an extraordinary friend. She has been a dearly appreciated sounding board and guide to countless folks who have endeavored to make a positive difference on Long Island. I am grateful for this opportunity to celebrate her, and look forward to great things going forward. I love you, Trudy.